Expressing love and respect

(EDITOR’S NOTE: Today’s guest post is from Seth Widner of The Relationship Solutions)

“Each one of you must also love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33

Over the past few weeks, we have focused on the primary needs of men and women. A woman’s primary need is to feel loved (cherished). A man’s primary need is to feel respected. When I share this truth with most couples, they tend to agree.

The struggle that most couples face is expressing love and respect. Most men openly confess that they love their wife/girlfriend. And most women would proclaim that they respect their husband/boyfriend. Our failure normally lies in our expression of love and respect.

How can a woman know if she is expressing respect toward her man?
How can a man know that his expression of love is helping his wife/girlfriend feel cherished?

Ask one another! God has created each person with a unique personality. We are all unique! Avoid grouping all men and women into categories. Although all women need to feel loved (cherished), each woman has her own love language. Although all men need to feel respected, there are different methods of expressing respect. And one method will not work on all men. There are multiple ways of expressing love and respect to one another. The key is to make sure that your expression successfully meets the need.

Here is an easy activity to do together. This will help you understand how to express love and respect to one another.

Women: Grab some paper and a pen. Write “I feel loved when you…” Tell your husband/boyfriend 3 practical ways that he can help you feel loved (cherished)

Men: Grab some paper and a pen. Write “I feel respected when you…” Tell your wife/girlfriend 3 practical ways that she can help you feel respected.

Exchange papers and have a conversation over them. Make sure that you both fully understand one another. Once you understand how to express love and respect, follow through. Make individual plans to express love and respect to one another, beginning today.

This will help you take steps toward a healthy relationship that lasts.

If you would like more help in developing healthy relationships, contact me at Relationship Solutions Take advantage of my free 30 minute phone conversation and see how your life can benefit from some relationship coaching. I’d love to hear from you!

Because Your Relationships Matter,
Seth Widner
Relationship Solutions


Posted on May 31, 2011, in Pop Culture, Sports, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

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